Begin with the end



So recently I moved to Seattle, and am trying to re-start a few things in my life. Colorado was unbelievable and there is a reason I have the states most iconic mountains tattooed on half my upper body. But I was far from perfect in Colorado.

I am recently single, but have been in and around the dating scene for the past few months.

I have struggled finding partners who make sense logistically, or that even have half of the same interests as me.

So being that I love declarative software, I figured it would be a good practice to define what exactly I am looking for in a potential partner right now. Maybe then I would know if/when I ever met them.


You love yourself.

This is a must, you have to love yourself ideally more than you love me. I want you to be proud of yourself. I want to be proud of us.

You love adventures.

Now don’t get me wrong, it would be amazing to find someone who I could go mountaineering with, but that’s not a requirement. I just fancy someone with a sense of adventure. Someone who enjoys a good scare, and is always willing to give something a try. If you have never defined yourself with the word wanderlust I doubt it would work out.

You are smart.

Now this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have some crazy degree or anything. This just means you can figure shit out. More importantly, that you even try to figure shit out. I don’t even have a high school diploma, I genuinely don’t care what you have on paper. I want an inventor – an engineer – a scientist.

You are beautiful.

Inside. I want to meet someone who’s friends and family will tell me they are beautiful on the inside. I want someone who makes every day seem a little more Saturday-ish.

You are queer.

So this word usually throws people off. This does not imply gender. I am open to dating literally anyone as long as they are a good match for me. I genuinely don’t care what gender you identify as, or what you have between your legs.

When I say queer, I mean you are okay with pushing gender boundaries. I am a mountaineer, I shop at home depot, and I know how to use a table saw better than you. I also wear high heels and glitter. You should be okay with breaking gender norms. (PS: this makes you queer)

You know I am alone.

I don’t have a family, and I don’t need one. I am happy to meet yours, but I don’t need you to fix me. I am fine the way I am.

You want to be better.

Every day is another chance to be a better person. Ideally you have many hobbies and goals, and are constantly pushing yourself to achieve more in life. I won’t do that for you.

You are down to trans.

I am transgender. Period.

You should be okay with this.

You like dancing, music and pancakes.

Sunday mornings will have a lot of this, I hope you are okay with that.






Think you fit the bill?



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